🛑 So please just stop giving advice! 😣

I am not one to feel down or ask for help. Very rare in fact, but today I was having a down day and I reached out to a few people as a sounding board and just wanted to be heard. I was not asking for advice!

But guess what all three started telling me what to do without finding out what I wanted. What would be useful in the conversation.

So here is what I do each day to be in a state of calm, relaxed, centred and showing up as my best self. I am pretty resourceful on all well-being fronts.

🍀 I meditate from 20-4O minutes every morning (on a 165 consequtive day streak)
🍀 Walk the dog for 1 hour each morning
🍀 Swim in the ocean twice a week
🍀 Do Pilates once a week and yoga twice
🍀 Stretch at home regularly
🍀 Do two HITT classes at the gym a week
🍀 Eat healthy most days
🍀 Drink lots of water each day
🍀 Sing in a Glee club 🎶

So what you can see I know how to look after my wellbeing. If I say I am down just listen. I am moving house and that can be overwhelming inspite of all the things I do above.

What is the point of this story? Well I teach this to leaders and mentors, don’t have advice giving as your default. It is rude and disrespectful of the resourcefulness of the person. They are the expert in their world! hashtag#solutionfocus They know what is best for them.

👉 Please be the guide on the side to help them figure it out through your questions. More asking less telling! Simple!

😣 I really got a full on dose of advice today realising how jarring it is and my mood got even worse!

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